So you just got engaged over the holidays and now you're gathering up all the bridal books and similar books and magazines. Here are 7 guidelines from my experience of photographing weddings. You can put these in any order you like, I am writing these down as I think of them.

 When selecting a DJ or a band it is very important to sellect a person or persons that match your style and understands what you want. A good band/DJ will be able to "read" your guests and keep them happy and also respect your wishes. Be sure to be specific and clear as to what you DO NOT want as well

2) Focus on your guests.

When you're a Bride and Groom, remember that ultimately you are the host of the reception.
Think of your guests, try to imagine how your guests point of view. When you take some time to envision the day from your guests perspective, and you make sure that their experience is smooth, relaxing and fun, this will make it a wedding to remember.

3) Your Fist Dance
There are a couple of different ways to do this, the choice is up to you and what the two of you want to do. Typically the happy couple do their first dance as soon as they are introduced into the reception and then sit down to dinner. Some couples have preferred to be introduced and sit down for blessing and toasts and then do their fist dance in-between different courses being served. This second way has an advantage in that once dinner is over, all the "formal" dances are over and just allows for your quests to enjoy their dancing. There is also a yet a third option as well and that is to wait till after your Main course and your Fist Dance kicks off the celebration of your reception.

4) The Toast
This is pretty straight forward, Usually the toast(s) take place after the wedding part guests are introduced and seated. The toast has traditionally been just the best man. This has changed over the years to include the Maid of Honor. Recently the Father of the Bride will also toast the newly married couple as well. The Toast should be kept to a few minutes minimum, should not include a lot of inside jokes that only the couple will get.

5) Good food
Whatever food it is, it should taste good!

6) To chicken dance or not to YMCA
You may find these dances 'cheesy' -- or you may not, but surprise -- many wedding guest do. This is something best left to your musical professional, they will be able to create a fun evening based on the feedback they get from your guests.

7) Bride and Groom-Set the Mood
Finally- Remember you set the mood. Your wedding party will pick up on your mood and will transfer that to the guests. If you think you might be overly stressed out about the details of your day, you might want to consider hiring a wedding coordinator - even if it's only for the day of the wedding. It will be worth every penny if it only means that you can relax and enjoy your wedding.

The more you plan ahead the less surprises will pop up. Share what your planning with your hired professionals, they want to know about your day as well because the more they know the more info they can give you to help it go smoothly. Most of all have FUN planning.